Believing When No One Else Does
Everyone struggles with this. Even Lady Gaga struggles with it (there's a scene in a documentary about her where she talks about having to get up every morning and remind herself she a "fucking superstar"). There isn't a person alive who doesn't have moments of doubt; but there are a lot of people who do a lot of extra ritual that is designed to push that doubt out of their heads.
Yesterday I talked about vision, and that's a method used to push the doubt out. Other methods include prayer, meditation, affirmations, dancing to exciting music, and keeping a positive attitude. We think that performing these rituals will make us stop doubting ourselves, but the reality is not that we doubt ourselves or our individual purposes: we doubt that we believe in ourselves.
What are you holding onto by doubting? What story are you telling yourself that reveals that it's okay to say that you don't believe in yourself? What benefit do you get from that behavior?
You tell yourself that it's okay not to put in the effort because you don't really believe in yourself. That's what. You save energy, sweat, tears, pain, by saying that you don't believe. Take a moment and let this harsh reality set in: by telling yourself that you don't believe, you tell yourself it's okay not to put in the effort, it's okay to give up.
What happens when you do believe? You go out on a limb for your belief. You tell everyone about it. You scream it from the mountain tops of your world that you have this vision and no one's going to stop you. But that kind of behavior is abnormal. Out of the ordinary. It's socially unacceptable to be a zealot for your own cause, especially if that cause is your own success; especially if you're a woman. Zeal is socially earmarked for the hyper-religious, not some girl with a makeup kit who thinks that her job is the best job in the world. Who the hell do you think you are?
This is what my [future National] Sales Director would tell me: you are a child of The King. That means a lot of different things to a lot of different people, but the bottom line is, you come from divinity. Who are you NOT TO believe? Your roots are in the sky, baby, because you come from g-d. Quit fighting it, quit refusing to believe it. Who cares what other people say, your belief in yourself makes them uncomfortable so they're going to try to shut you down in order to feel better about themselves.
And of course, when that happens, (and it will), you will refuse to be torn down, and you will tell them that you know there are a dozen other ways they could feel good about themselves than trying to tear you down. Give them an example or don't, but you have to demonstrate to yourself and to the world that you're no longer willing to give in to the doubt. Believe that you believe.