tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4267213304373394518.post3415977226582236606..comments2023-09-02T07:31:43.878-07:00Comments on Art of the Possible: Is an apple a vegetable? (My appologies to Anderson Cooper)The Empresshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18308157125737986388noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4267213304373394518.post-8848202387941939352009-03-15T14:57:00.000-07:002009-03-15T14:57:00.000-07:00Did he HAVE to challenge Michael Phelps to swim wi...Did he HAVE to challenge Michael Phelps to swim with him (on "60 Minutes")? I mean, talk about over the top!Daisy Deadheadhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17993200276152025235noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4267213304373394518.post-60703624111064879662009-03-14T15:25:00.000-07:002009-03-14T15:25:00.000-07:00I agree, watching porn is most definitely not chea...I agree, watching porn is most definitely not cheating. However, one thing I would be worried about should I find my partner with porn is what the actual content is and how are they translating that to our sexual relationship. I personally have some porn myself which I do enjoy, and I am able to distinguish between images or videos I find hot, and what happens between me and my partner. I have dated a lot of people who have counted porn watching as sexual experience and instead of listening to the needs of their partners, have tried to emulate the porn they read or see. Makes for shitty sex when your partner cares more about looking like a porn star or performing like one than actually pleasing their partner or being pleased themselves.<BR/><BR/>That being said, I realize that this is more a failing in how we deal with sex socially and of my taste in partners. Sex is still a taboo, so talking about what works and what doesn't gets stunted, and I had bad enough taste to date people who were so self absorbed or abusive that me asking for something sexually was seen as an insult or something to control me with. I don't blame the porn for any of that.Dorihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13676888930241945753noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4267213304373394518.post-87868269451022135732009-03-13T22:34:00.000-07:002009-03-13T22:34:00.000-07:00"Ze" along with "hir" are gender neutral pro-nouns..."Ze" along with "hir" are gender neutral pro-nouns that I first heard about when the Young Turks' Cenk Uygur interviewed Alissa Quart, who had done a piece in the NYT called "When Girls Will Be Boys" about women who didn't identify as women. http://www.nytimes.com/2008/03/16/magazine/16students-t.html<BR/><BR/>I have used it ever since. I'm not sure where it came from, but you should be able to find some kind of etymology online using the Googles.<BR/><BR/>And welcome to the blog!The Empresshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18308157125737986388noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4267213304373394518.post-84265480451746319262009-03-13T12:26:00.000-07:002009-03-13T12:26:00.000-07:00Hi! Just came upon your excellent blog via a link ...Hi! Just came upon your excellent blog via a link from Savage Love comments. I'm interested in you use of the personal pro-noun "ze". Why have you chosen "ze" in particular? Did you coin this yourself, or is a part of a larger "ze phenomena" that I am missing out on?<BR/><BR/>How I have longed for such a word!<BR/><BR/>Also: I think you are right about apples and pornography!Briohnyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04388872843435743769noreply@blogger.com